Supporting Your Children Through A Separation

It is extremely difficult for children when their parents split up, and every child will act differently. However, there are things that you can do to help your children adjust to any changes in your family.

Let's look at some tips below that will help you when you come to advise your children about just adjusting to you spitting up.

Talk To Your Children 

You may want to avoid going to the ins and outs about the reasons behind the relationship ending, so you need to talk to your children about what is happening. People will normally worry about how the breakdown of a relationship will affect their children; however, it is not good to hide things from them. Listening to and talking with your children can help them process any change they will be coming down. It may take them months or even years to get used to a family breakdown; however, with plenty of support, children end up coming to terms with their parent's relationship ending.  Sometimes, it might come when children are older and start to understand relationships. 

Try To Understand Their Feelings

You can help your children much better if you can understand how they're feeling. You also need to be able to show them that you know their feelings and can meet their needs. It's an important way for them to come to terms with the changes happening. Looking for help for single moms or dads is something that you may need to do. It could help you understand the feelings of your children more and be able to support them better through a breakup. It is normal for children to go through a whole range of emotions when their parents separate. These could be anger, needy, upset, anxious, and resentful. The most important thing for you is not to retaliate with anger for these behaviors; instead, talk to them and try to understand how they are feeling. 

Talk With Both Parents 

 none of this should be one-sided. The relationship was between two people; therefore, the break-up should have been between two people. This means that you should sit down and talk to your children together and reassure them that they are still going to be seeing both parents and are still loved. Some children benefit from hearing their mom’s side and dad's side and start to understand the relationship breakdown a little bit more. None of this is going to be easy; however, if both parents are there and talk to the children at the same time, then they are going to see that this is a decision that both people have made. It is not going to be about making one of the parents a bad person. 

 Hopefully, these three tips will help you if you ever have to talk to your children about a family breakdown. Remember is never going to be easy but having too happy parents is more important than having two parents who are staying together for the children.